Date Asian Women In London

Dean Cortez answers:

Usually South Asian or Indian men don’t date black women but still you can find someone who is interested in you.

Dean Cortez answers:

I’m not from London but I did live there for a while. My (Asian) partner and I have never had any racism where we live (midlands) but I noticed a lot more of it in London. Might have been that it was 10 years ago. I don’t know what it’s like these days.

I remember one of my friends, a young black guy came to a party and a few white guys were saying ‘who let the n-word in?’ and I felt horrible that I wasn’t brave enough to confront them and I really didn’t expect to hear that. It wasn’t nice. I really wanted to say something but I felt intimidated by them so I just apologised to him and explained that I was just too scared of them to speak up and he said don’t worry about it but I felt bad.

I think London is less friendly than most places but it’s maybe due to the size of it. They’d never get away with that behaviour where I live now, but down South they used to be really nasty at times. Not everyone, none of my own friends (obviously) but there was a black guy at the pub and some skinheads were making monkey-noises and a group of Irish nurses were at another table and they went ballistic and virtually threw them (the skinheads) out of the pub by themselves!

Again though, one of my friends is a skinhead and he’s a S.H.A.R.P (Skin Heads Against Racial Prejudice). He’s into the music and the style but he’s not a racist. So you can’t really judge anyone by what they look like because you never know. My (skin head) friend is married to a black woman and he bought a tv for their daughter – you should have seen the looks he got carrying the tv home on his shoulder! Everyone thought he was a thug who had just robbed someone! Anyone can be a victim of prejudice. You just have to remember that nobody can make you feel inferior without your consent.

I can’t remember where I read that but I believe it.

Dean Cortez answers:

I too spent most of my time in Asia and ended marrying a Brit.

Women are women but Brits are best. Great humor because they are traditionally reserved. My wife can crack us up with her non joke, joke. Then she pretends she said nothing funny at all while the rest of us are rolling on the floor. Great in bed because they are traditionally reserved. They can be wild as they are traditional reserved.
They have hair virus the hairless you`ve known. They will shave when asked.

Ask whats a banger for breakfast.

Anyway don`t worry about cultural differences, there virtually are none. Only traditions and some words. Tea gotta have that tea. Don`t make fun of them, that never goes well.
Never, Never mention Asian girl friends when telling a story. Brit girls as well as American girls have a fear of men liking Asian women better.

I highly recommend Brit girls, go for it.

Dean Cortez answers:

First up, way to generalize people into categories you moron. Now Indian/Arabic Man + White Woman: Watch every race go nuts? First up Arab men date outside their race way more than Indians men do and Indians are quite respected in this country. We have not really done anything to anyone and pretty much do our own thing. Indian Women date outside their race more than Indian Men do, this is a situation much like what the Asian men face. As for me personally i have been in a LTR with a white woman for a while now and i have not faced anything. If anything white women more or less look at us/me more closely but we have not faced much scrutiny.

I know you have not asked for advice but here is a tip, how about just treating everyone like individuals and drop the stereotyping, you will have a lot of success that way, i know i have.

Dean Cortez answers:

I’ve never seen so much stupidity written in my whole life, and darling you desperately need a life. Wow.

That said, let’s have a looksy shall we?
I think The first couple is NOT as acceptable as you make it seem.
See, here’s the thing; Black woman – white man couples are seen as a Threat to the power structure that is white privilege.
White man marrying a Black woman is an indirect threat to white privilege because in order for white privilege to work a white male must marry and procreate and always uphold the white woman.
And because Men hold most power (and we DO live in a patriarchal world.) it is even worse for a White Male to marry and mate with other “races” of women other than white…

That is why no one cares about Black male – white female couples (now some will disagree with this but you need to look at the bigger picture), When a white woman marries a Black man, she loses a certain privilege, and if she has a child by him, she also loses privilege because the Black man does NOT have as much power as the white male in America. If the black male has money, generally, no on cares because the white woman receives the money and the Money goes back to the white community. She wins.

(watch closely at the media, why pictures in magazines are cut out when George lucas or robert deniro is having his pic taking on the red carpet with his black wife – together. This happens a lot more than people realize).
No one wants this couple to become a common sight.
I could go into more detail but frankly, i don’t feel like teaching people about something that is a lot more deeper than “she/he is a sellout for dating a Black/white/blue/green person”.

EDIT: And the Bashing goes both ways btw. I’ve personally seen more youtube videos of Black males bashing black women for all kind of reasons, just have a look at this:Black man phones a popular radio show in London and slam black women.

Http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=1F1-4Y8sIBM&feature=related

As for the other couples, I think a minority with another minority is much more accepted for white people because it is not a threat to the power structures (i.e white privilege).
I think most men feel a sense of entitlement towards women in their ‘group’.
And women generally won’t care unless the man has money (holds power) or is physically attractive.
There are stereotypes that can work against someone and for someone at the same time.
For example, Asian women have benefited from the stereotype that they are docile and submissive, however, it has also backfired. I do feel like Black woman are seen as “strong” and [insert any other negative stereotype] and it has nothing good coming from it. Being seen a strong some would argue can be seen as something positive, but to me, strong equals masculine so it is not something to embrace as a “good stereotype”.
Hispanic women have the stereotype of being “firey” and have a mood that swing like a revolving door but that is also seen as “passionate” and “sexy”.
See where i’m going with this?

I find mixed race (black and white) men tend to go for white women (usually if they have a white mother). Contrary to popular belief, in England, white women tend to go for the mixed race guys, and the darker skinned fully black males are not as sought after.
Mixed race women (again, black and white) tend to go for black males (usually these women have black fathers), and the one’s who do not have a black father, but instead a white father, tend to go for white males (see: thandie newton).

To sum it all up; I think Men care more than women (yes, even if she is physically unattractive they care to a certain extent because they see her as “their property” and a member of “their group” so therefor she must not date/mate/marry someone from another “group”…some type of animalistic male thing i don’t know…BUT that doesn’t mean it’s right, no man should feel entitled to a woman unless she IS his woman.
As for other men caring about who another woman , who is not a member of his “group”, well, i find they only care if the woman is good looking and they wonder what she is doing with a man (whom if we look at the invisible totem pole, is further down on it..) For example, East asian men have a reputation that doesn’t work in their favor, and having an east asian male with an attractive white woman (who is, due to white privilege that is due to the white male) further up…well, you get the picture. Society wonders what she is doing with someone who is “beneath” her. But remember, that is ONLY if she is average or above average. Below average, and no one cares except certain white males (usually white males who wouldn’t be able to get ANY woman).
Notice how attractive people generally do not care about who dates who etc? Of course you do.

Anywho, hope i shed some light on this topic. Wrote it quickly and can’t be bothered to go into more details.