Why do so many American women refuse to date Asian-American men?
I have a lot of male Asian-American friends who say that many American women (Caucasian, African, Latin, and yes even Asian women) have a prejudice against Asian men. They also note the VERY few Asian male actors/models in film and print as proof of the racist climate against them. I’m starting to believe them. What’s the deal???
Dean Cortez answers:
Historically, Americans have thought of Asian men as feminine and emasculated since the mass immigration of Chinese men to the United States to build the transcontinental railroad in 1865. This is because those Chinese men were physically small averaging a height of 4’10″ (today the typical Beijing man averages 5’7″), sported long queues, sometimes wore long silk gowns, and did what was considered to be “women’s work” due to the lack of women in their communities. James Strobridge, the man in charge of hiring laborers, described the Chinese men as having “delicate hands, hairless faces and long braided hair.” In the press, Asian men were constantly compared to White women.
In today’s media, although Asian women are frequently portrayed as positive romantic partners for White men, Asian men are rarely positively paired with women of any race. In the past 30 years, there have been almost no Western or Hollywood films with romances involving an Asian man and a White woman, in sharp contrast to the hypersexual state of Asian American women in the media and the comparatively frequent portrayal of White man/Asian woman relationships. Often they are described as autistic or living in poverty despite their success. Joan Kee observes that “Asian American male sexuality has long entailed a discourse of nothingness.” Instead, according to Sheridan Prasso, Asian men in film have with little exception been portrayed as “small, sneaky, and threatening…spineless, emasculated wimps” with small penises, or “incompetents” who always lose when “faced with white man’s superior strength or firepower.” For example, in American films Kill Bill, Payback, and the James Bond movie The Man with the Golden Gun (1974), entire inept Asian male fighting forces are immobilized by a White man (or White woman in the case of Kill Bill).
The recurring image of the Asian male as a “sexually impotent voyeur or pervert” has pervaded television and film throughout American history. Examples include Mickey Rooney in “yellowface” as the bucktoothed Japanese landlord who sneaks peeps at Audrey Hepburn in the 1961 film Breakfast at Tiffany’s, or the pathetically asexual nerd Long Duk Dong from John Hughes’s 1984 adolescent classic Sixteen Candles whose every entrance is accompanied by the clash of a gong. The stereotypes of emasculated sissy Asian men in the media have also translated to real life in the light way that Asian male leaders such as Ho Chi Minh, Kim Jong Il, and Mao Zedong are described and portrayed.
In American film, Asian men usually don’t get the girl because they are either portrayed as being “Zen-like” and not having romantic feelings, or because they are easily defeated by superior White protagonists and are too emasculated to provide serious competition for the girl. For example, in Rush Hour 2 (2001) starring Jackie Chan and Chris Tucker, the following dialogue about a White woman takes place:
Tucker: She picked me because I’m tall, dark and handsome, and you’re Third World ugly.
Chan: Women like me. They think I’m cute, like Snoopy.
Tucker: Snoopy is six inches taller than you.
Even action movies like Romeo Must Die (2000), Kiss of the Dragon (2001), or The Replacement Killers (1998) that contain Asian male protagonists deny the Asian male characters romances with the White women whose lives that they save. Instead of the kiss usually granted to the White male protagonist, in these movies, the rescued White woman only gives the Asian action hero a hug or a grateful obligatory “thank you” kiss on the hand; there is never a relationship between the characters even if there is romantic tension.
In the UK, British Asian men are often stereotyped as being “skinny, geeky, conscientious, studious, and quite subservient.”
American anti-Japanese propaganda poster from World War II depicting a Japanese soldier threatening a White woman.
Predators to White women
American anti-Japanese propaganda poster from World War II depicting a Japanese soldier threatening a White woman.Asian men have been portrayed as threats to White women  in many aspects of American media. Racist depictions of Asian men as “lascivious and predatory” were common at the turn of the 20th century.  Between 1850 and 1940, both U.S. Popular media and pre-war and WWII propaganda portrayed Asian men as a military and security threat to the country, and therefore a sexual danger to White women  since a woman’s body traditionally symbolizes her “tribe’s” house or country in Western cultures.  In the 1916 film Petria, a group of fanatical Japanese individuals who invade the United States, attempt to rape a White woman.  In the action movie Showdown in Little Tokyo, the Asian villain forces himself upon a White woman and murders her before threatening the Asian female love interest. The White hero ultimately kills the Asian villain and “wins” the Asian woman — while the hero’s Amerasian sidekick is given no love life at all.
The recurring narrative involving the abduction or sexual contact of a White woman with a non-White (in this case Asian) man is called a “captivity narrative.” Most Hollywood captivity narratives involving White women and Asian men either feature the threat of “white slavery,” in which a White woman is forced into prostitution; or the capture of a White nurse or missionary, in which there is threatened sexual contact with an Asian warlord or military-related character (e.g. 1933 film The Bitter Tea of General Yen). The “white slavery” portrayal of the threatening Asian man stereotype was mostly predominent during the era of silent films. However, more recent examples of “white slavery” narratives include television movie The Girls of the White Orchid (1983), in which a White woman answers an advertisement for American singers in Japan and gets trapped in a prostitution slavery group; and Thoroughly Modern Millie, a 1967 American film and 2002 Broadway musical, in which young White orphan women are drugged, kidnapped, and shipped to Hong Kong as slaves.
In the latter narrative involving the capture and partial assimilation of a White woman into an Asian world and the potential relationship with an Asian man, the narrative usually ends with the rescue of the woman by a White man and their return to American home turf. Through this type of plot, cultural boundaries are reaffirmed as the mystifying Asian culture and Asian sexual threat are rejected with the rescue of the White woman, and the American home and way of life are upheld as safe and ideal. These portrayals of Asian men as desiring and threatening White women yet never achieving relationships with them also reinforce stereotypes of emasculation and images of Asian men as unsuitable partners for White women.
Oppressors of Asian women
The Joy Luck Club is particularly consistent with this racial cliché because it portrays Chinese culture, especially Chinese males, as being negative and restrictive to the freedoms of Chinese females. This in turn allows for a refreshing picture of White men to somehow liberate Chinese women. About the time the movie made its debut in theatres, many Asian Americans, many of them Chinese American, were offended by the negative portrayal of Asian men in this film. Such screen portrayals are consistent with the restriction and/or absence of Asian American masculinity in Western media.
There is also a belief in the West that Asian men (mostly businessmen) have sex with very young girls and have a fetish for crying. This is most likely due to the large amount of hentai that involves young girls unwillingly committing sexual acts.
Hiv prevalence among those Asian American women who primarily date outside their race rise in the future?
Some Asian American women report having an aversion to dating or marrying men of their own race.They report dating and marrying men of other races,primarily white men.Asian American men have the lowest prevalence for HIV infection.While black men have the highest and white men second highest and Hispanic men fall somewhere after.Asian American Women as a whole at present have low infection rates.But the partners the group of Asian American women ,(who report not dating Asian American men),choose have higher HIV prevalence than Asian American men,who have the lowest HIV infection rate.Asian American women‘s HIV infection rate is rising.Based on attitude towards dating men of their own race and engaging in sex with men of other races instead I would say it is on the bound.The same instance is observed with Europeans who engage in sex with African immigrants.The higher risk activity notes a rise in infection among the certain group.
Dean Cortez answers:
…….What are you trying to say? I don’t like where you are going with this, to be frankly honest, it sounds like a long winded way of saying that all African/African Americans are responsible for the rise of infection amongst Asian American Women.
Is it true Asian American women no longer date Asian American men? What’s your experience?
Sure we can say it’s a stereotype but who can deny a trend if there is one?
Dean Cortez answers:
That’s not true, there is more asian american women that married asian american men, it’s just easier for people to bond with people in their own culture.
I think people tend to notice couples of different ethnicities in public, no one notice the couple of same culture as much.
are asian-american women more likely to date afican-american men than asian women who were born overseas?
my name is twan and i wanted to ask if asian women who were born here are more likely to date( if possible marry) black men than asian women who were born overseas? i heard stuff from different souces such as from how the asian woman’s parents views asian/black relationships to how things in the media portray black men as thugs and criminals. i think that things from the media and other sources is a misrepresentation of us as a people because were are all not that and it just the ones that wanna act ignorant. i’m open to answers from any asian woman and to see what different opinions do they have on this topic.
Dean Cortez answers:
I think it depends on the person.
Why do some men say they only date asian women and not american?
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