Body Language Secrets – How To Seduce Women With Body Language
Body language can be a powerful tool when you’re flirting with women. Eye contact is where the seduction begins — it’s the best way to “open the door” and get the interaction started. Making eye contact with her in a confident way, and flashing her a playful smile, is the best way to create an “instant” connection with her.
“The eyes are the window to the soul,” as the saying goes, and this form of contact can be as potent as touch. Then, once the conversation is flowing, you’ve got to begin escalating in a physical sense.
Using How To Use Body Language To Pick Up Girls
This means that while you’re talking to her, you are going to use flirty body language. Not in an aggressive way. In a very subtle, “invisible” way that she doesn’t consciously notice.
But subconsciously, she’s registering your touch and she is beginning to feel physically comfortable with you. This is the key to using body language flirting effectively.
Picture the next scenario, which most guys have been through:
You go out on a date with a girl, and the two of you are having a good time. Everything seems to be going OK. But while you’re on the date, you’re wondering how this evening is going to end.
When you walk her to her car… or when you drop her off at her house…are you going to try to kiss her?You want that kiss (badly!), but you’re already worried that it might seem too “forward,” or too aggressive, or that she won’t be “ready” for it…
This is why in most cases, the date simply concludes with a friendly handshake, or hug, or a quick kiss on the cheek — and nothing more.
Or about this scenario? You take a girl to the movies, and when you sit down, you want to put your arm around her… or snuggle up close to her…but you don’t want her to feel weird or uncomfortable. So for the next two hours, you don’t touch her… and the whole time, you are wishing that you could be.
Look, the easiest way to get past these barriers is to simply lay a “foundation” of subtle body contact.
When you use body language flirting the best way, it’s a slow, natural progression — but remember, YOU are the one who has to initiate it.
The way to prep her for holding hands…kissing her…and eventually sleeping with her…is to establish subtle physical contact, and use these body language flirting tactics, early on. You want to make her feel comfortable with the idea of touching you, and you touching her. In other words, you want to “warm her up!”
So how do you accomplish this? Here are a few ways:
Tips For Using Body Language To Flirt
Body Language Flirting Tip #1: When you’re talking to her, when she says something funny, or something that you really agree with, give her a “high-five.” Don’t slap her hand (like you would do with your buddies). Put your hand up, she puts her hand up, and then you gently clasp her hand — intertwine your fingers with hers — and hold it for a couple of seconds before letting go.
It should feel totally natural — consciously, she shouldn’t even notice that you just made physical contact.
Or, when you’re talking to her and making eye contact, and you’re saying something “deep,” reach over and put your hand on top of her hand of forearm for a second or two — as if to emphasize what you are saying. Just a light touch. Then, withdraw your hand.
Body Language To Attract Women Tip #2: Instead of touching her hand, if you’re sitting down with her you can touch her knee for a moment. While you do this, maintain eye contact with her. Again, she won’t be THINKING about the fact that you are touching her knee, but her brain is registering it…and she is feeling at ease with it.
Body Language Flirting Tip #3: When you are holding open the door for her, simply place your hand on the small of her back (gently) and subtly guide her through the door.
See, her brain is picking up the message that you are a MASCULINE presence who is there to look out for her. She knows that she is with a man — not a wussy “nervous guy” who is scared to make any physical contact with her.
You can increase the frequency and duration of your touches as the conversation continue to flow. Your flirting body language will grow more intimate and powerful.
It won’t feel unnatural for you to reach over and gently brush the hair away from her eyes, and put it behind her ear…
And it won’t feel unnatural for you to lean in very close and whisper in her ear when you have something “private” to tell her. This can really give a girl goose bumps… in a good way;)
This is all laying the groundwork for you to give her that first kiss. After I’ve done all the steps above, I like to give her a soft kiss on the cheek after I’ve just said something in her ear.
After I do this, I withdraw my touch and return to whatever we were talking about. The “kiss” is no big deal. It feels like part of a natural, comfortable progression.
Essentially, this is how you use body language flirting to attract women. Ultimately, you’re going to make her feel comfortable being with you in every sense…but only if you lay this foundation.
Of course, this is just one of the components of a smooth seduction. The other big tactic you’ll need to use is Strategic Conversation. This means knowing exactly what to say, which questions to ask, and how to guide the conversation down the right path…
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