What can I do to stop crossdressing as a girl because i want to get married to a girl?
I’ve been doing a lot of wacky and crazy stuffs a lot lately because of the lack of a relationship. I’ve never acted crazily like this before until i hit pubery at the age of 14 years old. I had trouble of getting a date and finding girlfriends, I could never land myself a date with a girl since the age of 14 and now I am 19 years old and never dated. I started doing crazy things like crossdressing at the age of 16 years old, I would wear my mother’s and little sister’s dresses and i actually fitted into my little sister’s dresses because i am really skinny. Then when i hit 18 years old my crossdressing activities gained me a interest in girl‘s shoes like high heels and I started wearing them around my room with the two pairs of heels i bought with my graduation money. My mother and father has been disappointed by the activity when they finded and I explained to them that it was the fact of not having a girlfriend or a wife or someone to be in a relationship with, It took me 3 months since August 2009 to explain to them that i am actually straight orientated. They’ve promised me two days ago because I’m starting college in a week that after I finish college, Because I am a Vietnamese- American citizen that they will ask a relative in Vietnam to find me a Vietnamese Girl to marry me and be my wife and after marrying her I would bring her to the states to live with me. They said that the girl will stay with me after she comes to the states. So, how do i stop doing these abnormal things that i am doing right now ?? Does anyone know anyway or anything that can help me to stop doing crossdressing ?? I’ve finded out that i only do crossdressing because i get sexual thrill and because I don’t have a girlfriend. Can anyone please help me out ?? I’m begging for your help because I want to stop doing this before I get married.
Dean Cortez answers:
You just got to put down the dresses and
the high heels and say enough is enough.
You were born as a man, not a woman. There
was a reason for that. Start by cleaning out
your closet and going shopping in the MENS
DEPARTMENT. And looking at other men to
get ideas on what you should do. Buy some
sneakers, and socialize with the men around
you and get inside there head. You’ll eventually
learn. Hope this helped.
How is the job situation in Taiwan?
I am a Vietnamese girl, age 25. I hope to find work in the electronics sector. Can you tell me about the job situation in Taiwan and the salary range and is it difficult to find work and to get a working visa? I do not have much education so I am looking for work as an operator in an electronics plant. I can speak mandarin (chinese) but not English. Thanks very much.
Thanks Matt for your answer. Can you elaborate on how vietnamese workers are badly treated? You seem to be saying that factory workers have to stay in company-provided accomodation. Can factory workers look for their own accomodation?
Any idea about salary range for factory workers?
BTW I use google translate to help with my construction of sentences
Dean Cortez answers:
Currently the economy is alive and well. I cannot say for sure if you could locate a job or not. I can say that Vietnamese workers are not treated very well, but some agencies supposedly try to help out with that. Factory work is probably a good idea, because it is much easier for inspectors to go and check centralized locations for quality of life and make sure you get some kind of reasonable standard of living as opposed to being a house maid which sounds like the worst job on the planet to me.
Did you have a friend type your letter? Your english seems quite good to me.
All I can say about the visas is to check the websites below for information that can help you. Try to get on with a larger electronics company. HTC, Suncor, Teco, are ones that stand out to me as probably above the board as far as treating their workers with dignity, if not paying well. You should be wary of the agencies in Vietnam that bring you over; that tends to be where the worst human rights abuses and payments etc get involved. Never PAY to get a job: don’t gain debt to ‘pay’ it off- that is called slavery and is not an acceptable way to live your life. Quite frankly, if you have to get a debt to get a job you are better off foraging in the forest than doing the dark deeds such people would force you to do.
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Edit: In the past were cases of workers being forced into group accommodation in what amounted to dog cages as far as space issues went. This has been changed since media attention was brought onto it… In theory. Workers were rioting 1 or two years ago about working and living conditions; perhaps their concerns were addressed. Maids are famous for being sexually abused and physically abused and for not being allowed any personal time or space at all for themselves. Racism against Malay; Thai; and Philippino workers is common and if you look like ‘that type’ people are rumored to treat you worse or not let you into their stores in some cases- but mostly it is not open racism; people will be civil in general and as long as you pay for what you buy and can speak with them you will be ok. Bigger tech companies do provide safety equipment and must meet international standards at their factories to get accreditation- perhaps this has extended to off work areas (group housing) as well? I am not sure if anything is stopping factory workers with working ARC’s from getting their own accomodation and motercycles. I know, for myself, I was able to do that once I had my working ARC card in hand and had done all the health tests and had been in country for about 3 months. But many factory workers probably don’t make enough to get all that themselves (they get paid less than Taiwanese workers, generally which is why you get the jobs and might trigger the racism you might experience from some!) but perhaps 3 to 6 workers could band their salaries together for a couple months and pay rent on a 2 or 3 bedroom place if anyone can speak Mandarin or has a Mandarin speaking friend. I cannot say if any rules prevent this. IMO I think you can ask about this; the head hunters are likely to deny this to try and keep you under their thumb, but a company rep from the actual factory might give more details on what prices and assistance you may be able to get.
Try phoning or emailing these guys your questions and see if your mandarin is good enough to get sensible answers; their english writing and reading is probably also pretty good; They will tell you the truth and know the rules better than me!
how do i approach vietnamese girls and get laid?
im a pakistani aged 20.. is that a set back?? i need some tips that would help me get laid in my short visit to vietnam (Ho Chi Minh City).. im not that good at scoring with girls so i need alot of help..
Dean Cortez answers:
Money, Money and Money.
Why will party type/drinking type young people make excuses to get out of Work at least 1nce a week?
I have some of the dummest coworkers. and i know they are not the only people like this.
Girl – age 27, vietnamese american…she’s an alcoholic pretty much. and falls into peer pressure ..always saying ” i did this…cause my friends …ccause my friends” “my friends wanted to go …so i …” things like that. her friends are into illegal racing stuff.. bunch of guys. that have a race team( i guess many asians in L.A do that)
Guy- into hip hop culture. he’s a white guy. is a DJ. age 23. does nothing at work..just a bit. And since we are unsupervised, he spends his time saying how tired he is or talking with the girl above about senseless topics and listening to music and calling friends on phone.
I tell ya…everyweek, they are out at least 1 day. for super stupid excuses. To go meet a friend, to go to a friend’s graduation. and sometimes they leave an hour before 5pm just cause they are tired. The only reason i’m out is if i need to go to the dr.
Dean Cortez answers:
Just take care of yourself. Those people’s problems will eventually get caught up with them you’ll have the last laugh.
why do Vietnamese girls seem to be so violent?
i have dated a Vietnamese girl for 5 years now and she is the most violent girl i have ever dated, i am not talking about the odd slap or kick here, she has tried to attack me with a knife and a hammer, also another Vietnamese woman attacked my car because i think she must have she thought i took her parking spot even when i was next in line and she was behind me, she did over $400.00 worth of damage. but talking to her after the attack on my car she denied it as if “it was not her” it actually freaked me out a bit as this crazy old Vietnamese woman reminded me of my gf exactly (except for the age) because she does the same after abusing or trying to attack me. as a side note i have given up being a punching bag and now i hit her back, that normally stops the attack, i feel really bad about it, but after she scratched my eyeball with a coat hanger i decided that enough was enough.
Dean Cortez answers:
Not ALL Viet girls are violent. Most but not ALL. It makes dating Viet chicks fun lol.
How come my mothers thinks that I’m training my vietnamese wife to cheat by letting her wear high heels ?
So my wife just moved to the united states from vietnam about a month ago and I bought her some nice clothing and shoes that I see other girls at her age wear. My wife is 20 years old and I bought her some high heel shoes like pumps and my mother says I’m training her to cheat on me. How come my mother thinks that ??
I have a learning disability and I’m failing college, can I still raise a family without a college degree ?
I have dyslexia and I cannot finish college and I’m already planning to marry this cute girl from vietnam and have a family with her. I am 21 years of age and I have tried my best in finishing this 2 year degree at an community college and I have failed. I am vietnamese and I want to marry this vietnamese girl from vietnam. Can I still marry her and raise a family without a college degree ???
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